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OK, and now I would like your input on this: During my absence from blogging, one of the things that was/is bothering me was a pronounced sense of home sickness. Rather late in the day, when you consider that I have lived in Yorkshire for 20 years. It’s not that I don’t like it up here, I do, but I feel I have been here for long enough, and now, I would really like to go back home. I discussed this with Mr Blogs last night, and he agrees with me, and would like to move down to Warwickshire (or that area). He lived in Wiltshire for years and still has a soft spot for that part of the country.
The potential problem could be my in-laws. The reason we moved to this village in the first place is that they are both getting on in years (mid 70s) and Mr Blogs wanted to be near them. Plus, they did exert a certain amount of pressure to persuade us to relocate. I don’t blame them, and it’s not as if they did it in an unpleasant way, after all it’s only natural that they would want their family near by. However, the last few months have been difficult and it would have been a great help to have had my family and oldest friends a bit closer.
Anyhow, we came to the decision that we aren’t going to head south asap, mainly because the Bloglets are still at school/college so it would be unfair to disrupt them. However, once Number Five Son leaves school in two years time, we could move, and hope to do so. The problem is, how do we break it to my MIL and FIL without them feeling that we abandoning them (we aren’t, my BIL lives here and they have a large extended family, and it’s not as if we would be that far away) or that we are hoping they will hurry up and shuffle of this mortal coil so that we can go elsewhere.
Any thoughts/suggestions will be appreciated.
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Anna
/ August 23, 2007If you really want to move, then go for it.
You’ll only regret it if you don’t. Then you’ll get all bitter about the ILs and that’s never good.
It’s a cliché, but you have to follow your heart.
Pete
/ August 23, 2007I’d agree with Anna. Ultimately you have to live your own life.
I think you have to sit down and be honest with them and tell them how you feel.
On a lighter note don’t they evict you from Yorkshire of even thinking of leaving.
Kate
/ August 23, 2007Thanks for the input
It’s one of those situations where you know what to do, but feel guilty for doing it.
Kate
/ August 23, 2007Pete, yes, I think they do, so shh, keep it under your hat or they’ll get Geoff Boycott to drag us to the border, give us a kick in the pants and shout ‘sod off, you ungrateful buggers’.
Kate
/ August 23, 2007ps: They may even shout ‘bah, some folk dunno they’re born’.
Pie
/ August 23, 2007I say go for it. When you’re older would you want your kids to feel they had to stay near to you when really they wish they could travel?
Cotswoldgent
/ August 24, 2007It’s the old guilt syndrome; just gone through it myself with my parents. My Father is now in a nursing home and my mother lives alone in a bungalow. To start with I felt dreadful about putting my Father in a home and my Mother being left all on her own and we are talking about two adults who are well in to their eighties. But if you try to interfere they don’t really like it, but they moan if you’re not around.
Best thing you can do is get on with yours and your family’s life, as long as you are in phone contact;
What is it, a couple of hours to Yorkshire from Warwickshire?
Let your kids do the school thing and then move to where you and hubby want to move to.
Do not be dictated to by parents, you have to live your own life.
Kate
/ August 24, 2007Pie: You are right. I would feel terrible if my sons felt they had to stay close just because of me.
Cotswoldgent: It is just over two hours away. The problem is my FIL genuinely can not understand why anyone would want to live anywhere else. He’s be upset if we moved to the next village. But then again, this is a man who took 20 years of persuasion to visit Wales. Seriously!
Diddums
/ August 26, 2007Maybe you could persuade the whole family to go with you – sell them on the desirability of living in Warwickshire next to each other.
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